Getting married is about the union of two people who will make promises on their wedding day and the words you select will maximise the special bond that you want to make with each other in front of your family and friends.

There are certain prayers, vows and commitments by law that have to be said but adding extra special details to your vows will almost always work in your favour and make for a wonderful memory for you both.

Try using a thesaurus for more inspiring words to use as this will ensure that your vows are really individual for how you both feel towards one another at this critical time.

Talk to the vicar/registration representatives from your area with your ideas. Also, print out and give them a copy of your vows to ensure they can be checked at least 2 weeks in advance. This will avoid last minute changes and panic.

Another option is to add readings or poems to the ceremony. These can be read by you or your new groom or even a family member. Just make sure whoever is to read, is confident and will be able to speak clearly on the day. Don’t pressure them to learn it by heart as this can be daunting when standing up in front of a lot of people especially if they are not used to doing so.

Whatever you choose to say, those special wedding vows should come from your heart. It will create an amazing feeling within the room for you two and all your guests. Therefore, you should do everything to keep your promise and make the marriage work, no matter what trials and tribulations may come in your way. Remember that you are now with your spouse and have to live your life together as a married couple.

Doing so can make the ceremony tailored perfectly to you as a couple, and will say only the things you feel are most truly important and relevant to say to one another. Thinking about getting started on writing your own wedding vows can be a stressful process, so this article will give you guidelines on where to begin putting pen to paper and writing down what is in your heart.

Start with just writing. Don’t think too hard about what you are writing. Take time to yourself in a quiet place where you can reflect on your relationship, your impending marriage and why you want to spend the rest of your life with this person. What makes them special? Why are they the one for you? Just brainstorm. Don’t worry about anything having any poetic nature or true sentimentality in the beginning-just get down into words all of the things you love about your partner and what makes you excited to spend the rest of your life with them.

Once you have a nice big list of things (and you should have a good sized list, otherwise you might want to think long and hard about what you are committing to!), have a talk with your fiancée about what kinds of vows you will both be writing. If he is writing something light hearted and funny and you want to write something incredibly sentimental and sappy, the feel of the ceremony might get thrown a little off kilter. Being on the same page about how you want to deliver your vows is very important.

Once you are both on the same page as far as the tone of your vows, pick out some of the most important and relevant things from the list your compiled earlier. Maybe you think it’s adorable that your beloved always wears socks, even in 100 degree heat. That is a sweet aspect to your relationship, perhaps, but maybe not the best thing to mention in wedding vows that are meant to be sentimental.

Be conscious of those attending your wedding, and try not to make your vows a 20 minute monologue each. Of course, it is your ceremony and if you want to have vows that lengthy, that is completely your decision. However, it might be difficult for your friends and family to sit patiently while you both speak at great length about your love for one another.

One good thing to keep in mind while you are writing: Think of your partner. Imagine their reaction to the words you have written and how they will react to hearing them said out loud in front of your loved ones. Keep their reaction respectfully in mind and speak from the heart and in no time at all you will have penned some vows that will speak perfectly to your relationship and hopeful future together.

First think about the type of ceremony that you would both want, and it has to be something that you will both be happy with, otherwise it goes against why you are renewing your vows in the first place. The beauty of vow renewals is that you can have any type of ceremony you want, you are already married so this is not a legal ceremony, instead this is a much more intimate celebration. Some couples have a religious ceremony while others have a friend conduct the renewal ceremony in a place that is special to them.

Next you have to plan the practical side of the celebrations, your budget is going to be a deciding factor and some couples find that they have more money than for their wedding, others find that they have less as their parents helped them. Either way it doesn’t matter as what is important is the love that you both share and the vows that you say to one another.

When you have your budget you will next need to find a venue and decide on a date, most couples try to find a date as close as possible to their wedding anniversary. Your venue can be anywhere, there are no rules to renewing your vows, you don’t have to have a big reception but you can if you want!

You will want to send out invitations to your wedding anniversary celebrations, possible wording for your invitations could be; Please join us as we celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary by renewing our vows, and then give the time and place. Or some couples have their children host the celebration, if this is the case then the wording for the invitation could be Sarah and Bob Smith request the honor of your presence at the vow renewal service of their parents, Jane and Brian Smith, and then give the time and the place.

You now have time to think about what you want to say in your new vows, again this is entirely up to you, there are no right or wrong vows, just make sure you give yourself plenty of time to think about them as this is what is going to take the time!